Our Tips For Coping With Loss This Christmas
Loss, at any time of the year, is hard for all of us to cope with. But, during the festivities and celebrations of Christmas, it can feel particularly challenging. When the world tells you to smile and be thankful for what you have, it can feel like nobody is acknowledging the pain and grief you’re going through. Here at Wallace Stuart, we aim to be a supportive shoulder for each of our families, helping them to wade through the fog that is lost. Here are our tips for coping with your emotions during the Christmas period.
Talk To Loved Ones
While it can feel inappropriate to bring up sad thoughts when everyone else seems to be happy, talking can be so therapeutic during this time. Those that care for, and love you deeply, will be grateful for your honesty and the fact that they can lend an ear to help alleviate some of the strong emotions. Remember that most people don’t know what the right thing to say to someone who’s going through loss is. So, if you feel like people are being quiet, it’s less likely that they don’t care and more likely that they don’t want to upset you further. Reach out with a text to say you need to chat or ask someone round for a cuppa.
Celebrate The Good Memories
Is there something that your loved one used to do every single Christmas? Perhaps they were partial to a glass of mulled wine while watching the local light switch on. Or, maybe they always had a box of biscuits on the side for when you visited. Consider bringing their traditions into your Christmas as a way of keeping their memory alive. If it makes you cry, let the tears fall.
Remember To Prioritise Yourself
During times of grief, it can be easy to put yourself at the bottom of the checklist. However, this is guaranteed to make you feel worse. It is so important to make sure you are a priority. No matter what makes your heart sing – whether that’s a cup of tea in quiet every morning, your favourite television programme or a cheeky treat in the evening, make sure to schedule it into your day – as a priority.
Don’t Be Scared To Say No
The festive season is busy but that doesn’t mean you have to over pack your calendar. Yes – some activities may help to take your mind away from the loss momentarily but it’s also 100% acceptable to say no. Explain to friends and family that some activities feel too overwhelming right now. Consider asking close friends if you can organise something quieter – maybe a meal at home or a movie night instead.
Christmas can be incredibly challenging if you’re dealing with the loss of a loved one. Here at Wallace Stuart Limited, we are here to help you navigate these challenging times. If you would like to speak to a member of our compassionate team, please do get in contact with us here today.